The Modern Way of Disciplining Kids

Last Sunday was just like any ordinary Sunday for me (well, that’s what I thought).. Doing the laundry and looking after my not-so-little-girl anymore is REALLY an ultimate MULTI-TASKING skill that I need to master.

My gosh! She’s really growing up that fast – I thought to myself. She ‘s growing up so independent and very vocal about her thoughts, which I think is a good sign.

So there, back to my story.. last Sunday as I was doing the laundry while she is watching TV I told her to take her afternoon nap, but she insisted not to. I think this is what they call the terrible two’s. Seriously, my tot is really testing my patience, she would go in and out of the house, go near the laundry area which will make me scream at the top of my lungs fearing that she might slip or trip herself and all you can see on her face is shock and teary-eyes because you just yelled at her. Gawd! Seriously?! 😦 And all of a sudden you’ll start hugging her tight and whisper “Mommy’s not mad, I just got scared that you might hurt yourself if you keep on doing that.”.. after a few seconds, she’s back to normal and will do the same thing again like nothing happened.

Puhlease?! And me? Yes, I was left clueless. I did just yell right? And I just almost got mad. But look at the kid, back to her normal, energetic mood. Going in and out of the house (again!) while singing in the tune of hi-5, and happily stomping and jumping with excitement near the laundry area.

And then I thought to myself, what can be the best way to discipline my daughter? Considering her age is 2.5 years old and it is given that she is exploring her surroundings and the people around her, which sometimes most of the time gives me a mini-heart-attack.

According to a study, punishment is better that rewards system. I am, in all honesty guilty of doing the rewards system at all times. I always buy my daughter new toys and stuff because she was behave for the last two weeks, I am not a fan of punishment kasi. I grew up without being spanked by my parents (yes guys, believe me. Baet ko ano? 🙂 ) Anyway, ayun na nga. For me kasi, punishment will bring tears and fear to children.. of course I want my child to be happy every time. But, what I was not able to realize is that; one way or another my daughter will get hurt. No matter how much I protect her, she will cry, get rejected, and have her heart broken. That was my mantra before that’s why I don’t like to scold or yell at her even if she’s doing something wrong na. I was thinking kasi, we can just talk it out and have it discussed in a calm manner. But for the last two nights, I was wondering if “face the wall” will work for her. Other studies naman suggested to limit her TV time, or don’t let her play with her favorite toy.

I’m just having a sigh for this. It’s only now that I realize it really takes guts to raise children. You will really learn to extend your patience to the highest level and make you research on the best way to discipline them. Right? But then again, at the end of the day what’s important is you get to explain to them why you scolded them or why you did not let them watch their favorite TV show. As a parent, that’s the most important thing to do. Let’s not scold them or worse embarrass them infront of their friends or other people; we can probably talk to them in private and make them reflect on what they did wrong.

We love our children so dearly that we always want the best for them. And for them to have the BEST in life, they need to understand the importance of DISCIPLINE.

PS

I’ll give you an update on which best suits Saab’s behavior. I’ll try first the “Face the Wall”, if this does not work I’ll try to limit her TV time.

Thanks for reading mommies! ♥ Happy Tuesday!