Last Sunday, Martin and I attended our first ever Pre-Cana Seminar. This is one of the requirements of the Catholic Church prior to getting married. According to Wikipedia, Pre-Cana is derived from the verse of the Bible; Wedding at Cana where Jesus Christ turned the water into wine.
As husband and wife for more than three years, we thought we already know each other that well. Na we are doing our part 100%. But we are wrong, super ang dami namin na-realize when we attended the seminar. And ang pinaka masaya dun is that we were able to appreciate each other more. 🙂
The talk is done by The Family and Life Ministry Coordinators, Mr. Sam Uy and Mrs. Marina Uy. Nakakatuwa yung sharing nila about their married life. Hindi talaga Happy Ending ang Marriage, it is a consistent work-in-progress, a Lifetime Partnership and a Commitment not just to your spouse but also to God. Alam ko, parang hindi ako yung nagsasalita, pero kasi after attending the session parang it made us a changed person e, alam nyo yun? Mas na-appreciate ko talaga ang asawa ko ngayon and mas naintindihan ko ang roles namin pareho. I’ve also realized na mali pala talaga ang mag-expect ka na magbabago yung partner mo for you. Instead of asking GOD to change him, we should ask GOD to help us adjust sa sitwasyon. Diba? Parang mas madali nga naman yun.
When it comes to our children, it taught us na kahit naman hindi kami biyayaan ng madaming anak e it does not mean na hiwalayan na namin ang isa’t-isa. Kasi nga naman we decided to get married because of one thing: WE LOVE EACH OTHER. So bakit nga naman maghihiwalay kung hindi magka-anak hindi ba? (Kaya Steph, wag ka na daw ma-sad kung hindi ka mabuntis agad.) Tsaka I remember a post from Mommy Fleur’s blog, na dapat talaga yung spouse natin ang lagi natin inuuna. Kasi sooner or later mag-aasawa din yang mga anak natin, they will have their own life and family. Sa ayaw at sa gusto natin, hindi na tayo ang magiging priority nila pag tumanda na sila. Pero ang mga asawa natin, whether we like them or not andyan lang sila sa tabi natin. Kasi that’s what we promised e, diba? ‘Til death do us part. Pero, let me make it clear, hindi naman ibig sabihin nun ay pabayaan na ang mga junakis natin. Syempre hindi ganun yun. We have to take good care of them kasi nga they are God’s gift to us. It’s God’s way of saying na he trusts us to take good care of his children, to be the stewardess of his creation. Kaya we should also take good care of them and love them unconditionally. Ang bottomline lang naman is that even if you guys already have kids, you should not let your whole world revolve around your kids alone. Aminin kasi nating mga nanay, we have the tendency to ignore and take for granted our husbands pag meron nang mga anak kasi syempre iniisip natin is that mas kailangan tayo ng mga anak natin more that our spouse. Pero mali pala yun, isang nagiging reason ng failed marriage is that lack of communication and quality time with the spouse. Dapat once in a while we’ll have our quality time, simpleng movie, kaen sa labas, tamang CoCol (Coffee-Coffee lang) diba? Yung ganun? I figured out na between sa aming dalawa ni Martin he’s more thoughtful when it comes to mushy things like this. Ako kasi si OC e. Like I have na plans for the weekend, hindi pa nagsisimula yung week alam ko na yung dapat ko gawin by weekend. Kaya pag nag-aya yung isa decline ko agad kasi nga I’ve already planned for something else. Kaya pala minsan parang mas masaya sya pag mga friends namin yung kasama nya kasi parang at some point I became a boring wife. 😦 Pero aminado naman ako dun. Kaya nga we are very thankful that we were able to attend the seminar kasi mas naintindihan namin yung role ng isa’t-isa.
Kaya for soon-t-be-married couples out there wag nyo baliwalain yung Pre-Cana Seminar na yan. Super helpful yan sa pagiging buhay mag-asawa ninyo. Trust me. 🙂